Tell us a little bit about your self-love experience. What did you battle with? How did you overcome it and what are you still struggling with?
After having my two children it took baby steps, but I gradually built “me time” into my routine again, and I was better for it. I learned that prioritizing self-care changed my perspective. When I’m filled up with what makes me feel good, I have more to give to my husband and kids. Contrary to what I originally thought, taking time for myself actually allows me to be more sacrificial to my family. They get my best instead of my leftovers. I no longer struggle with putting myself first when I need to.
Tell us about what you do for work and how you maintain a work-home life balance.
I work full-time as a Computer Programmer and in my spare time I am a book blogger and influencer. My method of maintaining a work-home life balance is pretty simple: I simply keep lists and schedules and stick to them. I have a weekly cleaning schedule, a laundry schedule, a schedule for the kids activities, a work schedule, etc. I also find that planning for the day ahead the night before works wonders for me and our family. This includes: meal planning, laying out the kids’ clothes, and writing my to-do list for the next day. I know it may sound a bit too routine, but it works for me and our family. I also leave room for lots of fun, play time, quality, family time in our schedule so it’s not all work and no play.
What advice would you want to share with other mothers about self-love and self-care?
I don’t know where you’re at in your journey. Perhaps you’re in the newborn days, maybe you’re stages ahead of me in the elementary school or teenage years. Wherever you are, it’s not too late to start filling yourself up with what makes you feel like YOU. Spending time away from your kids isn’t a bad thing. They’ll be okay, and you’ll return refreshed and ready to love on them like crazy, having the stamina to persevere and raise world changers. I encourage you to do what makes YOU feel good. You deserve it! No mommy guilt allowed.
Do you have any go-to strategies, tips, books or resources for when you are feeling overwhelmed, stressed, or doubting yourself.
I pray – A LOT. I also talk to myself, recite positive affirmations or read a few pages in a book called Pressing Pause: 100 Quiet Moments for Moms to Meet with Jesus.
One piece of advice would you give to your younger self?
Pray more, worry less.
If you could give your children any piece of advice what would it be?
Never lose your sense of curiosity. Always be curious about things going on in the world around you.
What are 1-3 mom superpowers that you have and our proud of?
My ability to raise my children as readers and my ability to plan, organize and maintain our household without feeling overwhelmed.
What do you really want for Mother’s Day?
I got exactly what I wanted: A nice, peaceful day to myself doing exactly what I wanted to do while hubby took care of the kids.
What’s your spirit animal?
I have no idea! Maybe a tiger? Roar!
What is one thing you want to say to your mother?
Thank you for bringing me into this world – I am eternally grateful.
What does being a good mother mean to you?
I think being a “good” mother requires having lots of patience for dealing with everyday life. Work project taking longer than I expected? Patience. That new idea I tried out not working? Patience. The kids having a tantrum in the middle of the grocery store? Patience. In all things: patience.
How do you protect your mental health?
I choose my circle of friends and people I choose to hang around with wisely. I am very protective of my space and my energy.
Answer “ If I knew then what I know now….” In reference to becoming a mother.
I fully understand that God is just as interested in growing me through this gift of motherhood as he is in growing my kids. I think of it this way, there are two people being raised in every parent-child relationship: the parent and the child.
What a gift we as mothers have been given: a means by which God is pursuing us, loving us, and helping us to grow too. I look forward to all of the lessons God still has in store for me in the years to come.
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